How To Text A Girl You Like: Psychology Of Texting
When it comes to texting a girl that you like, what you say and how you say it are of fundamental importance. Say the right things and she’ll be like putty in your hands, but say the wrong thing, then well ….. attraction will plummet into the ground!
Our Psychologists have devised a simple strategy that you can implement into your texts when texting a girl that you like that’s bound to get a positive response and will without a doubt increase your chances of success with every woman you meet.
(1) Hey! What You Up To?! = BORING!
Shy away from boring conversation – she’ll misattribute this and will implicitly imply that you are a boring person too!
Your conversation needs to be creative when texting a girl that you like!
While you want to know what she’s up to and whether she’s having a good day, make sure that you’re creative and providing scope for great conversation.
Tell her something interesting about your day. Did something funny happen to you on the way to work or when you were walking down the street. It can be entirely random, just don’t stick to the protocols of typically boring conversation.
How To Text A Girl That You Like: Examples
“OMG … I just saw this couple arguing in the street in front of everybody! Something must have been up for her to slap him that hard lol!
“I was in a meeting earlier and the guy next to me fell asleep! I could barely hear what my boss my saying the snoring was so loud!”
“I was on the treadmill at gym this morning. You know you’ve put the setting up too fast when you nearly fall off the machine! Not cool! haha”
Dynamic and creative men are much more attractive to women! Also she will be more likely to reply when your message has substance!
It’s ok to text back instantly sometimes (providing you don’t make it a regular thing) when texting a girl that you like. When you provide an instant response, unconsciously you are signalling that you will not only drop everything you’re currently doing to reply, but it insinuates that you have nothing better to do.
Never a good thing!
By varying your reply times, she will begin to think about when you will text – which serves an important function; it will lead to a confirmation bias deep in her brain, where she will confirm to herself that she must like you; otherwise why would she be constantly thinking about when you reply!
By patiently awaiting your reply, gradually she will think ‘why is he taking so long to reply’/'what is he up to for him to take so long’!
Not only will she be thinking and awaiting your text, but a very important biological change will be happening deep within her brain as she anticipates your text – where pleasure chemicals will be firing in her brain’s reward centres!
You may even find that she will send you multiple texts if you take your time and play it cool! At which point, her interest in you is clearly observable!
(3) I’m So Busy Right Now!
If you’re having a busy day at the office, or you’re trying to finish off an important piece of work …. or stuck in an environment where it’s difficult to text, you can politely say that you’re unable to text at that time.
Providing you give a valid reason for why you can’t text, she will understand!
This can create an unconscious attraction to you!
What happens at this point is that you are taking control of the conversation. This can house attraction for reasons similar mentioned in point 1.
Let her know very subtlety that you have other important things going on that require your attention. Women perceive men who are focussed, and who have goals as more attractive.
If you’re a guy that texts a girl he likes every moment of the day, including situations where he should be focussed on something else, you are hinting to her that she takes priority over everything that you do.
Psychologically, it becomes less exciting as she’s not anticipating your text, as she instinctively knows that whatever she says, you will reply within an instant, and consequently, the fun has been sucked out of the game!
(4) Keep It Short And Sweet!
Unconsciously, we take text length as a sign of how interested the other person is. We’re much more likely to write a long text to somebody we are attached to, because it feels like we are investing more time and energy into the relationship that we hope the significant other will reciprocate!
By keeping your texts short to mid length (150 – 300 characters) you are not investing too much that it becomes blatantly obvious how much you like her and give the game away entirely.
Initially, when texting a girl that you like, you want to keep your cards a little close to your chest and let things unfold gradually.
Short to mid-length texts allow you to do just that!
If she starts to write you long essays through texts, and is playful with you, you can begin to conclude that she does indeed feel something for you.
(5) Be Playful & Find A Pet Name!
Being playful is a fundamental part of flirting and an excellent way to measure how attracted to you she is.
If you get a hint that she’s interested, be playful with her and tease her a little. If she bites the bait and returns the level of playfulness that you are expressing, it’s a very positive sign of attraction!
Providing you’ve got a good grasp on whether she likes you or not, you can introduce a relevant pet name to take things to the next level.
(6) Use Of Smileys And Grammar !!!
You’ll realise at this point that the context is very important in determining how your text will be perceived, and that seemingly unimportant factors of the text can have an overwhelming influence.
The same goes for the use of emotions, smileys and grammar – they dramatically shape a boring message into a message with character and can spark her interest in you.
How To Text A Girl That You Like: Examples
Take these two examples. Although they convey the same information, the surrounding information of emotions and smileys determines how the text will be perceived.
“Hey. How are you? What’s your day looking like? Had a great time with you the other night, hope we can meet again soon.” – It’s robotic, mechanical and perceived as boring! Ultimately, her unconscious mind will create the link between your texts and your characteristics, to conclude that you must be a boring person!
How about this ….
“:) Heyyyyy! how ya doing? Having a good day? Had a great time with you the other night, hope we can meet again soon ” – It’s more playful, more bouncy and has charisma that reflects well on you as person!
Psychologist’s Tip: Apply a smiley face the beginning of your text will create a good priming effect, and she will perceive your message in a more positive light!
(7) Ask Questions!
When you ask a question, unconsciously she will be more inclined to reply to you.
A question provides a gap that she will feel obligated to fill, therefore a well placed and timed question will not only spark a more in-depth conversation, but will keep the conversation going (an important aspect of texting a girl that you like).
The last thing you want is for her to not reply!
This means you will always be making the first text, and making your intentions and attraction for her blatantly obvious which will drive attraction into the ground – which can be difficult to recover from!
Questions will unlock new avenues of potential conversation that will keep the texting alive! Interestingly, this provides new avenues of conversation where you can stumble upon similarities between you and her (a well documented factor within Psychology that creates attraction).
Be creative! If you know she’s had something interesting happen in her life, ask her about it!
Question Examples: Texting Girls You Like
‘How did your presentation go? ‘
‘What have you got planned for the weekend?’
‘Congratulations on becoming an auntie! What did you sister call the baby’
(8) Be Positive!
This is of fundamental importance! You need to come across as a positive person. What you say and how you say it will largely determine how likeable and positive you are perceived to be!
When texting a girl that you like, focus on the positive things that are happening in both your lives. While you might be going through a rough patch – it can be good to mention the situation, but if those negative vibes start to dominate the conversation on a regular basis, it can impact negatively on you.
By remaining positive, being fun, playful and bouncy in your texts, unconsciously she will perceive you as a much more favourable guy that she will be attracted to.
(9) XXX – Kisses
Women take note of how many kisses you put at the end of your messages. We associate more kisses with increased attraction. Therefore if she really likes you, you’re likely to see lots and lots of xxxxxxx after every text she sends.
However, how many kisses should you put at the end of your text?
Truth is, it will vary from each girl that you meet. Generally speaking, two kisses will often do the trick. If you’re both getting on really great, you might want to increase this number.
If she’s replying with no kisses or just one, you will have to judge whether this is because she isn’t attracted to you or whether she’s like that with everybody.
It can be good practice to vary the amount of kisses that you put at the end of your texts. If you get a better response from her just using one X, then you might want to stick to that number.
So be sure to experiment and keep a mental record of the results!
(10) Good Morning Beautiful
The good morning beautiful text is perhaps one of the most powerful texts you can send to a girl that you really like.
Never abuse the psychological power of this text!
If you get a clear indication that she is interested in you, then sending this text in the morning can be extremely rewarding (providing that you truly think she is beautiful) – don’t use the word beautiful unless you mean it sincerely.
It will provide her with the best start to the day that she can possibly imagine and she will attribute this entirely to you!
This text should only be sent a woman that you have an emotional connection with – preferably you’ve known her for a while at this point and you’re both mutually interested in each other to pursue the relationship further.
Sending this text to a girl you’ve only had a one night stand with is psycho behavior!